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 Post subject: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 8:58 am 
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Here is another story Linny as I promised you. This one concerns my parents.


The Anniversary.

We had managed to get a British Legion flat for my parents and get them moved from London to Loughborough so that it would be easier for me to pop in to see them and make sure they were OK in general.
I had a sister who was separated from her husband but I did not expect her to take on too much because she had been through a rough time.

I got my mother sorted out with seeing a specialist who diagnosed cancer of the stomach. It could take up to two years for it to finally reach its peak and he said nothing could be done for her at her age with the state of her lungs as they were.
I didn’t tell my mother nor did the specialist tell her. We let her think it was an ulcer that could be kept under control.
This wasn’t being cruel but just being logical because I did not want my father to worry about anything because he had started suffering with epilepsy in later life.
My mother was enjoying her new life with folks of her own age especially the Bingo afternoons but my father hated Bingo and refused to accompany her so two lovely ladies called three afternoons a week to take her to the communal hall where they had these sessions.

One Saturday I called with their shopping and I looked at the back of my mother as she stood in the kitchen and although she showed no signs of pain I KNEW that she would not be here the next week.
She turned to me and said “ It will be our 59 wedding anniversary on Tuesday the 26th of February next week. I think I need a bl**dy medal for putting up with your father for all those years.” I laughed because my parents had thrived on rows all through the time I had known them but God help anyone else if they tried to interfere.
The arguments helped to keep their adrenalin going.
My father heard what she said and quipped “ I paid 7s/6d to marry you woman and if I see that vicar I will ask for 7s/5d back.” It was always tit for tat with them but it was there way of living and I used to tell folks they would be lost without their daily argument. Which was quite true.

Anyway as I stated I KNEW my mother would not be here the next Saturday even though she was quite lively then.
I phoned all the family that I had including my two brothers who lived down South to ask them if it was possible for them to get up to see our parents on the Tuesday.
How stupid could I have been because excuses came from them as to why they could not come. I could not be bothered to argue with them so I just politely told them in some choice swear words what to do with themselves.
I told my sister who lived in the same town and also all of her family that I would appreciate them coming to G/Grandma and G/Grandads 59th wedding anniversary.
I managed to get at least about thirty friends and family to call in and wish them well and even managed to get a cake made which was all a lovely surprise to them .
The little anniversary party went well and I was satisfied to know that they had most of their family around them to celebrate it.

My parents could not stop saying how lovely it was to see all the grandchildren and great grandchildren altogether.

On the Friday teatime the phone went and I said to my hubby before he picked it up to answer it “This is about Mum.”
My hubby did not question what I said because I had already told him I was expecting bad news.

She had been to Bingo with the two ladies and was feeling exhausted when she got in so Dad went to put the kettle on to make a cup of tea.
He heard her call “Bill” ( my fathers name ) and he went back in to see what was the matter and she had fallen out of her chair but she was dead as she hit the floor.
She died on Leap Years Day 1980 within 10 months of the cancer diagnosis.

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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 12:50 pm 
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Thank you so much for sharing this story about your Mother, Maywalk. :)

and

Thank you, Linny, for asking for more stories. :D

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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 3:03 pm 
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Thankyou Paul.

I hope you and the rest of the members are keeping well.

I know I have not been in for some time but family matters have been occupying my time, with looking after hubby and my lovely d-i-l who had a mastectomy just before Christmas. She is back at work now but she still has more genetic testing to be done on her other breast.

Its been a hectic time which also included helping students with their WW2 evacuation dissertations.
Linny bless her contacted me to see if I was OK and SO wanted another story and I promised her I would pop in to put one up for her.
I hope Thais doesn't mind. :oops: :oops:

God Bless All.

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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 1:54 pm 
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I just politely told them in some choice swear words what to do with themselves

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Cud you teach me how to do that?

Thank you so much for your story Maisie!!! This one was as wonderful as the ones you are living out today. I just love them in earnest.

Hug your family, self & I'll bother you from time to time.
This was a really, really sweet story.
xox
linnyx


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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 2:12 pm 
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Thanks Linny.
Take care and God Bless. :)
Maisie.

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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 9:21 pm 
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A poignant tale Frolique. A just in time story.
I have a similar 'just in time' story. When I was 21, in 1961, my father wrote me a letter telling me about my birth and a lot of things that I wouldn't have understood at an earlier age. He thanked me for being a 'fun kid' to raise and hoped I had enjoyed my travels with them both all around the world. In closing , he had enclosed a cheque for 100 pounds for the purchase of "Tea and a steam roller" as I was about to do my own travelling overseas, and he knew that these items would be of tremendous assistance!
Late in 1969 I mused over this letter and decided to reply. I thanked him for all the values he had given me, the interest in sports, (he had played soccer and cricket for the Royal Navy) , the visits to strange sounding places with strange sounding names. A two week ride in an aircraft carrier,(to Bermuda) and so much fun in the water, and many other things. Shortly after I gave it to him he was diagnosed with Paget's disease and cancer.
He died in hospital at age 55 in 1970. During his last minutes they had to put him on a respirator with a thick rubber hose on it. He took it off long enough to say, "I've been telling too many elephant jokes!"

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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
PostPosted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 9:48 pm 
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I just wish that I'd had the same closeness with my parents Michael as you did with your lovely dad.

Maybe the poverty that I was born into and WW2 had something to do with that.
I will never know but I did my best for them both while they lived so I have no regrets.

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 Post subject: Re: For Linny as promised from Maywalk.
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I'm thinxing we all did, not only for our genetix parentals and wanted siblings-
but also for each other.
As you regard Michael, and me regards you and you give to me-it creates a spiritual family (which goes forward infinitely)
punctuated by a dog who carried a brick.

Somedays-Maisie dear,
That dog and his brick-is me. Otherwise, I'd just call the whole day off. But I can't, because, Prince saw his reflection and then some kind people got him another brick.

So another brick day.
Bricks all aboust.
love,
linnyx


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